Why you should start dating as soon as you are separated

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Two years ago, I was at the lowest point in my life thus far. My divorce had just been finalized and I had moved into a tiny apartment with no one but my cat to keep me company. During this time, many of my friends and family told me to take some time to “rediscover myself” before getting back into the dating pool. Though they meant well, their advice was misguided. Getting back out there was the best thing I did for myself in the wake of my separation.

Often times, we make compromises to keep a relationship going past its expiration date. We think that if we tweak certain aspects of ourselves, we’ll be able to keep our partners happy. This is nothing but an elaborate lie we tell ourselves to delay the inevitable. If you’ve just separated from a long-term partner, it’s probably safe to assume that you haven’t had much fun as of late. You may have even lost sight of what makes you desirable as a romantic partner. You owe it to yourself to get out there and remember that there are hundreds of thousands of potential partners in the world.

Remember, the goal here isn’t necessarily to find another long term relationship. The goal is to remind yourself of the person you were before your relationship went south. The excitement of a new fling can rekindle your zest for life, and there’s something to be said for that.

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